❁ Karen's Advice About Confidence & Loving Yourself ❁

Hi, hello everyone!

It's been a while since I've made a blogspot post, I'm sorry I'm not around as often as I should be. :-(

I've been really busy with school and homework and such. How are you guys doing?

Okay, so I've been seeing a lot of depressed tweets and posts lately and I thought of making this for you all.

Being depressed, hating yourself, having no confidence is so commonly found in teenagers these days.

I know how it feels, because I used to be like that as well. But I'm not like that anymore.

I'm still not completely confident, but I'm A LOT better than how I was before. I know it's really hard to change your mindset completely. So I'd like to share with you a couple of advices/rules I follow to all how I did it, the confidence and loving myself. THIS IS REALLY LONG BTW!

♡ Rule N'1 : If You Don't Let It Happen, It Will Never Happen ♡

First off, if you want to start loving who you are, you have to let it happen. You could have everyone around you tell you compliments, but if you don't accept it or believe it even a tiny bit, it is completely meaningless. You have to let people give a shit about you and you have to let yourself give a shit about you. If you don't let it happen, loving yourself is impossible. Open your heart. You're a lovely person. What matters the most in this process is that you should be able to look in the mirror and let yourself accept that this is who you are and you're a great freaking person. This is you. You can't be anyone else even if you wanted to. You're going to be in this body all your life and that should be a good thing to you. If you don't think so, make it happen. No one knows the future. Wouldn't it be really sad if we all died tomorrow and the opinion of yourself before you die is just hatred? I wouldn't want to feel that way. I would want to die loving myself atleast.

♡ Rule N'2 : Change Or Accept ♡

I can't bullshit you and tell you everyone is beautiful to me. But I will tell you that there are no one who is unable to become beautiful, only lazy. That's something my mom has always told me. If you don't like what you see, change it. You don't like your curly hair? Go to a hair salon and change that. You don't like your weight? Set a diet plan and work out. You don't like being bony and skinny? Set a eating plan and gain weight. You don't like your oily acne filled skin? Use many natural products and wash your face more often. There's solutions to many of our problems. Then there are problems where we can't completely fix and you're stuck with them. For example, you are stuck with the freckles on your face. (If you don't want to get surgery on that. I think there is one for that, I'm not sure?) Tell yourself every morning or afternoon or night or anytime you remember them, think of them as a part of you. They're a cute part of you. You may not like it, but someone else may think they're the loveliest things ever. Okay, last part of this rule is don't ever think that you don't have the power to change yourself. Stop it. Stop thinking like that. You can do it. You can change your weight, how you dress, how you think, and anything else you put your mind to. Don't sit and be depressed about how it will always be the same. No, it fucking won't, as long as you give it a go. Don't tell yourself "It's not easy, it's too hard, I can't ever do that, I can't ever be like her/him." No, that's so not true. EVERYONE has the will power to become who they put their mind to, as long as they try hard enough to do that.

♡ Rule N'3 : Don't Rely On Compliments Too Much ♡

 The point of this post is not trying to make other people like you, it's trying to make you like yourself.

I'm trying to tell you exactly what it says, don't rely on compliments too much. Compliments are very nice. I love when people compliment on my outfit and hair and makeup, etc. However, don't let it affect you to a point where you're doing things to get compliments from others. Your own happiness should be the motivation, not compliments. Besides, if you let people's compliments build who you are, you will be broken by their criticism as well. 

♡ Rule N'4 : Don't Let Anyone's Opinion Affect You ♡

It's easier said than done. I know that, and I'm still trying to work on this as well. I've been trying for a long time now and I still don't completely do this. However, I can tell you that I've been worse and judging how I am now, I am so much better, although I can't say I am able to do this 24/7. High School is really tough and everyone is really self conscious about what everyone else thinks of them. There will be people who hate you for no apparent reason at all, who hate you for how you carry yourself, dress, talk, walk, and anything else imaginable. You can't convince them to like you most of the time. They're just going to keep being a bully and a hurtful person. Think of it this way, if you let it hurt you, you're letting that person win. They can't win if you literally don't care about their opinion at all. Wear what you want, Be who you want, Date who you want, Love what you want, but make sure to do it with confidence.

♡ Rule N'5 : Good Vibes, Stay Positive, Choose Happiness ♡

For all of these to happen, you have to stay positive. If there's someone, like a friend or coworker or acquaintance or whatever, who makes you feel bad about yourself, your body, the way you carry yourself, etc. then CUT THEM OFF OUT OF YOUR LIFE RIGHT NOW. IMMEDIATELY. If that doesn't work, ignore them as much as possible. I've had friends in the past who gave off bad vibes around me all the time. I let it affect me. She isn't my friend anymore. When I look back, I think of so many times where I was hurt by her and her words and think to myself, I should've cut her off long time ago. People who bring you down, kick them out of your life. You should be able to love who you are as a person without having anyone close to you bother that process. This is kind of random but I've never actually cut myself, no matter how depressed I was. (Although once I attempted to. I'm not proud of it at all.) I'm so sorry for people in the world who've been so hurt by others, that they decide to hurt themselves. Please stop. I know it's tough. You are capable of throwing that blade or any weapon you use, and say fuck you and never look back. You are capable of so much more. You're all beautiful beings, we all fuck up. Hurting yourself or hating yourself isn't going to help any of the problems you're experiencing. Choose happiness, instead of loathing yourself and wallowing in self pity. If you choose the second choice, then you are choosing to make your own life miserable. You are in charge of how you're feeling today, and you're going to choose happiness. Everyone has those bad days and everyone has a time where they are not happy with what they see in the mirror. But only difference with loving yourself is that those times are only temporary. Life sucks and it gives us a hard time sometimes where we dislike ourselves or become sad, but living doesn't suck. Actually, it's amazing. Your mindset changes everything. You are the master of your own fate and you're the captain of your own soul. You've had enough of what everyone wants you to be, you're going to do what your heart tells you to do. Don't let sadness control you and how you view yourself, love.

Love ya all & you are all mega babes ♡♡♡♡♡

If any of you ever feel down, you're free to talk to me on any of the links on my blog!

There is a post made by Jasmine Blu which is also helpful so if you find mine interesting or not well written enough or want more of advices, I recommend reading it.

Thanks for reading, lovelies

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